In the comments section of my recent post Why I Won't Be Changing My Facebook Status to an Equal Sign, an anonymous commenter asked why I would say NFP was stressful. Upon reviewing what I did write I couldn't find where I said NFP was stressful, nor could I see that I implied NFP was stressful. No matter, I would like to respond anyway. (As it turns out, the anonymous commenter was actually commenting on a comment from another anonymous commenter who chooses to use birth control because NFP is too stressful--My bad. Anyhoo, I'm keeping this post mostly intact, as it really is an honest look at the sometimes stressful world of NFP users)
I'm going to be completely honest and admit, that yes at times NFP has not been all sunshine and roses for us. We are sinful, fallen human beings who sometimes want what we want and what we want does not always or even frequently line up with God's Will. I'm sorry if this is a shock to real NFP lovers.
I'm by nature a worrier. Bringing babies into the world exacerbates that. If we are being 100% honest, pregnancy is a real stinker, and child birth is painful and terrifying. We've lost two babies in the womb and that worries me. So yes, I sometimes find NFP difficult in this regard.
For many years Wingnut would deploy for long periods of time, up to three months at a time (easy in comparison to many these days with Afghanistan still a hot bed of conflict). I would be left with 2, then 3, then 4 small children, far from family and support. The idea that he could be deployed and I left pregnant or with another little one to care for alone could be quite stressful.
So yes, my embrace of NFP hasn't been perfect. That is not the fault of NFP. It is my fallen nature, and yet, I continue to embrace NFP and I believe there is something to be said about perserverance. I absolutely believe NFP has made the difference in our marriage, and I will encourage my own children to make it a part of their marriages.