Friday, July 13, 2012

On Why I Will Never Make a Negative Comment on a Blog Again

A few days ago the Catholic blogosphere was all abuzz over the return of Katie Holmes to her Catholic roots.  Yes, the soon-to-be-former Mrs. Cruise has registered in a parish in New York.

According to the article proclaiming Ms. Holmes' return to the practice of her Catholic faith, Saint Francis Xavier parish is: known for inclusive thinking and its welcoming of many gay and lesbian Catholics. Its mission statement indicates that the Roman Catholic Church parish “strives to be a prophetic, welcoming community, inclusive witness to the presence of Christ Jesus in our midst.” Its website proclaims that it is a respectful community, “where seekers and their questions are welcomed, where injustice is challenged, where the poor, the alienated and marginalized find a home, and where people are refreshed, reconciled and renewed.  So, not the parish I would have chosen, but then, that's me.

Why, oh why, did I feel the need to say anything?  Of course, my intention was not to slam Katie Holmes, my intention was to question the orthodoxy of the parish in which she has chosen to register.  It was stupid of me, and re-reading my comment it does sound on the uncharitable side.  Certainly, we should celebrate when anyone chooses to return to Christ's flock.  We must meet them where they are spiritually and welcome them.

My comment was surely not of the welcoming variety, but neither was it overly harsh or critical.  This is what I said, "Not to sound too judgmental, as I suppose it is a baby step in the right direction, but if this is the parish she chooses, Ms. Holmes has a very long way left to go to be considered home." I stand by my comment as being the truth, if not the truth in charity.  Believe me, I agree, her stepping away from Scientology is a very good thing!

From there, I (along with a few other folks who agreed with my point) was raked over the coals as being uncharitable, overly judgemental, harsh, and suspicious.  And honestly, I get it.  Those criticizing me over my remark do not know me as a person in the least.  Had they known me, they could have gently pointed out their disagreement in my judgement and we could have had a real, honest, and insightful conversation rather than the sniping that ensued.  I haven't responded in the least.  I know it won't make a smack of difference to anyone, even myself.  Lesson learned.  If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.

As a side note, I did visit the parish website, and while it seems they say all the right things there is something definitely off.  Should a Catholic have to wait and schedule an appointment for confession during the summer rather than having regular confession hours available? Should a Catholic parish have a Zen Meditation group? Sigh.  Enough said for today. Print Friendly and PDF


elm said...

Charity the mother of virtues has given obedience patience as a sister and has so joined the two together that the one can never be lost without the other. Either you have both or you have neither.

Obedience has a wet nurse, true humility, and the soul is as obedient as she is humble, and as humble as she is obedient.

St. Catherine of Seina

Thinking the virtue you were practicing is Prudence.

Maurisa said...

What a beautiful and true quote, Elm. Thank you :)

Mary De Voe said...

The daughter of Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes, Suri, will need the TRUTH, the infalible TRUTH to survive in the world. It is to the benefit of all parties to find the infallible TRUTH.

Anonymous said...

Oh Pah! I've been to this parish because it was close to where I was living. Its a too hip, marginally Catholic social club, pure and simple. I wont presume to worry about the validity of the sacrament there but they work hard at provoking the Church and maybe our Lord.
God Bless Katie Holmes and her daughter, but charity doesn't require us to pander to whatever the day's definition of cool is or to parishes that do.

elm said...
Good article by Mgsr. Pope of the DC diocese.

I send along cause I am learning my lessons in charity.

Catholicus said...

Hang on a minute, we're not protestants who chose their denomination and congregation. We're Catholics, and Catholic parishes are geographical. Katie and Suri's parish is the parish where she lives, end of story.

Anonymous said...


I absolutely agree that a parish that you have to SCHEDULE CONFESSION (?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!) is a huge problem. I can't even begin to think about them having anything to do with ZEN on their website. This is pure craziness!!!

At least you are aware. Let us pray that everyone's eyes will be opened to the danger of such off-base Catholicism.

White Oak, PA