I am at my wits end. Our beautiful, smart, talented 12 year old is really struggling in school, and it isn't so much the material as the motivation. I cannot get her to complete assignments on time to save my life, unless I resort to threats, restrictions, cajoling, and at times, yelling. She struggles a touch more in school than her siblings have and I've made all sorts of adaptations to curriculum for her more kinetic and auditory learning styles. I have been more than willing to discard material that is not working and replace it with something that suits her personality better. Still, we battle over certain kinds of assignments--anything that appears to her to be unnecessary or extracurricular to the rest of her materials, especially anything that requires extra reading or writing. Today I have her sitting at the dining room table working on two writing assignments she has allowed to slide all week; one for religion and the other for literature. I even adapted the assignments to better match her interests, and still she resisted. She will be a 8th grader next year. She cannot afford to slack off now on the cusp of high school. She has goals. Does she have the motivation to meet those goals?
Any help here would be appreciated. How can I motivate this vibrant, intelligent young lady so she might one day be the vibrant, intelligent, talented young lady God wills her to be? Does anyone have a strategy that has worked for your reluctant student? Sending her off to "regular" school is not an option I would consider, just yet. I'd really like to leave off the yelling, threats, restrictions and cajoling. Obviously, it is not working.